Back in high school, my 11th grade English teacher used this quote to describe me to the class: “She marches to the beat of her own drum.” At the time, I remember feeling offended and self-conscious. Like I was being called out in front of everyone for being weird or different. He explained then, and I came to understand, that it’s actually quite the compliment.
March to the beat of your own drum and do so fiercely, bravely, confidently. Be strong in your convictions and stand firm in your integrity. The reason I feel so passionately about this is because we live in a world chock full of comparison. Especially here in LA, and with the prevalence of Instagram feeds and Snapchat filters. Everything is a façade, a superficial image. Maybe that’s just the best depth that person is currently capable of or maybe it’s a defense mechanism to avoid uncomfortable vulnerability. But no matter the reason for our painted walls we hide behind, the fact remains that it breeds comparison, and false comparison at that. Nothing is what it seems. We judge and compare our inner world with the exterior of what others show us.
Remember: life is not a race, it’s a journey. And there is no “winner.” The grass is not greener on the other side, the grass is greener where you water it. Do you. Take care of you. Own your path with confidence. It will inspire others to do the same and you’ll share the walk of life with interesting people brave enough to do the same. I’m not where I thought I would be at 32, and I’m not where a lot of my peers may seem to be. But, life isn’t about checking boxes at all, and it definitely isn’t about checking them by particular ages. Cross whatever milestones you want, and do so when you want. Go at your pace, try to resist the urge to compare, and never use the word should.