Danielle LaPorte often talks about asking the question “How do I want to feel?” I think it’s important. We want a job, a house, etc. but why? It isn’t the things themselves, it’s how they’ll make us feel. And when we focus on that, we’ll suddenly see the vast array of options that will allow us to feel that very way. There’s oftentimes many means towards one end, if we don’t just focus on Plan A.
The conscious awareness and emotional development work oftentimes is slated as being “feelings” based and written off by those who deem themselves as skeptics, emotionally limited, etc. But our feelings are physiologically connected with our physical bodies.
The first part of May, I was going, going, going. Social calendar was blowing up. Which I totally loved – it was fun and allowed me to feel connected to others. But, I didn’t carve out anytime for my self-care. So by last week, I was just feeling drained and exhausted. This week, I purposefully didn’t schedule my time. I dedicated it to my work. I’ve been reading and researching, I’ve been catching up on blog posts, I’ve had 5 coaching calls, I’ve been programming and creating. And I feel so happy and fulfilled. I experience a physical response when I operate in this state. Leaving a workshop or hanging up from a coaching call, my face is lit up, my smile is big, my heart is light. Walking into my office at my day job to do the work I’m not so passionate about…there’s an immediate physical reaction. My shoulders slump, my body stays tense, my breath becomes exasperated.
Notice when these things happen for you throughout your day. I spend my evening hours after work focused on my practice for a reason. I’m not always super social for a reason. Because I’m building something that will facilitate me always feeling light in my heart and joy in my face. Yes, the success of Paper + Arrow will provide the income to go live my best life. But there are other ways I could do that, technically. I chase this dream because it makes me feel how I want to feel.
And, the tribe you bring along for the ride? They should make you feel the same way. Quality over quantity. Surround yourself with fellow hustlers and dream chasers – you motivate one another, you raise one another up. This past week wasn’t made up of parties and happy hours, but it did involve brainstorm sessions over coffee and co-working alongside a bottle of wine with some of my closest friends. I’ve noticed I’m drawn to choose friends who have their own passion project. And working on yours doesn’t have to be done in isolation. In fact, the best projects require mutual support. When you’re around your people, notice the ones who make you feel excited and inspired versus the ones that maybe fill your social calendar, but leave your soul unfulfilled.
You are the navigator of your life path, follow your true North and feel how you want to feel.