When I started my blog a year ago, I did so for my love of writing. I did so as a way to express my thoughts & feelings. It truly is a therapy for me. My creative release. My writing is not only retrospective and a way to connect more deeply with myself, but it is also a way to offer some perspective to my readers.
When I started off, I didn’t know how many people my blog would reach. I didn’t know how much of an impact it would have on its readers. I just hoped that it would inspire others in some small way. We all lead our own lives, walk our own paths, write our own stories. I wanted to share my story so that I could be a part of my readers’ journeys. I wanted to give a reminder that, while some of the specific details will change, we all go through a lot of similar challenges and joys in life.
What I did not expect is how many people would share in my journey with me. I’ve learned there are people who read my blog not necessarily as an inspiration for wherever they are in their journey, but as a way to support me in mine. That’s a really good feeling.
Over the past few days, I’ve had a few people, all very dear to me, share something with me that I need to pass along to my readers. Empowering one another and learning from one another is a collaborative effort…I love that this blog has become a way to do that. I love that people think of sharing with others. We’re all in this together.
First, someone shared this article with me. It’s about the ambiguity that exists in dating these days, mostly due to a lack of clear communication. Someone doesn’t want to clarify what it is they are looking for in a relationship or someone doesn’t communicate how they feel towards another as a way to protect and guard their emotions. I can relate to that. Past experiences teach you to have a guard up. It’s tough to put yourself out there completely. And when both people aren’t being fully open and honest, it leads to a lot of second guessing, a lot of over-analyzing and a lot of insecurity. The article is a great read, and full of insight into relationships.
A few quotes I’ve been turing over in my mind lately: “I know what I bring to the table so trust me when I say I’m not afraid to eat alone” and “My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude.” I feel confident and comfortable being single so I’m not going to give that up for just anyone. That’s why the timing for my friend sharing this article with me was perfect. It sheds light on recognizing the emotionally unavailable. This friend ended her note to me with “The clarity and self confidence you gain as you learn to recognize and walk away from the ’emotionally unavailable’ only happen when you are able to truly embrace yourself.” It was such a positive affirmation. Our journey with ourselves is to gain clarity and self confidence. To love & embrace yourself first. It does give us the confidence to stand alone until we can recognize those qualities in another person. It meant the world to me that my friend understood and supported that concept, and felt it important to share with me & my readers.
Along those same lines, I stumbled upon this song recently. Besides the fact that her voice is amazing, the lyrics are incredible and spoke straight to my heart. I shared it with my friends. In response, my AKS sent me a link to this video. She’s my rock and knows how I feel and what I need to hear. It was such a wonderful reminder of the cheerleaders I have on my side. Another reminder that we’re all in this together and that sharing in one another’s journeys is reciprocal.
And lastly, my cousin (we were more like sisters growing up!) shared with me the book she’s been reading. Having read my last blog post, she said it would definitely be right up my alley. The book is called “The Truth of Everything” by Brianna Wiest. My cousin has sent me a few excerpts and I have already ordered my copy – it’s one of those well-written books where the words just hit you. You feel them in your heart. I can’t wait to read it cover to cover. It speaks to the process of my own journey, and I think it will do the same for my readers. I’m including below text from the chapter Things Happy People Know.